Do you feel that something is not right in your relationship, yet you find yourself making excuses and tolerating the emotional abuse? Emotional abuse can come from a place of love, concern, or protection, and it is not always obvious. It chips away at you slowly, and even if there are some good days, you know deep down that something is not right. But why do we tolerate emotional abuse in relationships? Here are six possible reasons:
Belief in the Relationship:
One of the main reasons we tolerate emotional abuse is our belief in the relationship. We hope that things will improve in the future and hold onto the belief that the situation will improve or that the relationship will become more fulfilling over time. We may also believe that by example, our partner will learn to treat us better.
Cultural Norms:
Cultural or societal expectations can play a role in emotional abuse. Traditional gender roles may teach us that each partner should be self-sacrificing and put their needs and wants second to their partner's. This can lead to the belief that suffering in the name of love is a necessary part of being a good partner.
Comfort and Familiarity:
Even if a relationship is not meeting our emotional needs, it can feel comfortable and familiar because it is the known. The routine of the known is valued over emotional fulfilment.
Fear of Being Alone:
Another reason we may tolerate emotional abuse is the fear of being alone. We worry that we will not be able to cope with the challenges of being alone or of remaining single.
Low Self-Esteem:
Low self-esteem can lead us to believe that we do not deserve better treatment or that we cannot do any better. It can make us believe that we can change our partner's behaviour through our suffering.
Lack of Support:
Lack of family, friends, or network support can lead to a feeling of helplessness and lack of choices. We may feel that there is no alternative except to tolerate the abuse.
If you or someone you know is experiencing emotional abuse and tolerating it in a relationship, it's important to seek help and support. Remember, you are not alone. By seeking help, you can break the cycle of emotional abuse and take steps towards healing and building healthier relationships.
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